I wonder just how many people are holding back from doing what they would ultimately love to do because of fear. I have been afraid so many times throughout my life. When I first left Zimbabwe at the age of 13 to live in Germany, I was terrified to leave my friends, family and all the things that I had grown to be familiar with. When I arrived in Germany, I was afraid to start my first day of school. When I first moved to London, I was afraid to be away from my parents and the same feelings took over, as I moved from the UK to Australia. Throughout my life I have worked through my fear, even when people told me I couldn’t achieve something. If I hadn’t have done so, I wouldn’t be where and who I am today and I wouldn’t be able to plan my goals for the future.
So it appears vividly accurate when Neale Donald Walsch, author of ‘Conversations with God’ says, ‘it seems we are afraid of life itself and what goes on in it...if we transform fear, we can transform the world’. Just think of racism as an example: does it not stem from fear and lack of knowledge of different races and their culture?
Walsch states that fear is based on the feeling that we need something and we are not going to get it. Fear is present, for example, in some relationships, because there are many people who feel afraid that no one will love them and when they do meet someone who loves them, they are afraid they will lose them. The most important thing that I’ve learnt that has really changed my life, is that you don’t need the love of man to experience happiness and joy...every emotion of happiness and joy is within you. Furthermore, God is within you and He knows exactly how to give you happiness and love. One becomes more attractive when they are happy, strong and aware within themselves and not looking for those on the outside to confirm their worth in society.
As Walsch states, if we look at fears as ‘adventures’, our fears become unreal...and instead adventure brings excitement and inspiration. Every time we overcome our fears, it’s another adventure conquered and isn’t that a great way to live our lives?